Gentle Reader,
Welcome back to another Friday on the hill. You have survived the most trying week of the year for the yearning and heart-broken. I hope your week was filled with chocolate and flowers, even if you treated yourself to them.
In honor of the national holiday of romance, today we are paying homage to all of the one-sided love stories out there. Just as real as the rest, except they come with a little more sting. If you’re getting mixed signals, coping with unreciprocated feelings or unsure whether to make the first move, keep reading. At the very least, you’ll find some solace in the mutual confusion that is being a single college student.
YEARNER #1: “Long distance relationships are tough? Try long distance unreciprocated feelings! Got any advice on how to get over someone who made you feel the most ‘you’ in a long time, but doesn’t feel about you the same way...I’m just over here reminiscing about the few times we had together...but never again...sigh...i miss you!”
Thanks for your vulnerability, Yearner 1. Unfortunately, all I can really say is to give it time. Getting over someone truly is a waiting game. Take care of yourself. Every time you reminisce should be followed with one act of self-care. And one more thing — the “you” that you were with this person still exists within yourself. Let yourself find it!
YEARNER #2: “Hey there’s this girl who I know likes me from mutual friends and I want to hang out with her to see where things go but I have asked to hang out multiple times and she always says yes but never makes a plan. What should I do?”
Yearner 2, this is a classic dilemma. There is nothing that feels quite as unstable as the uncertainty behind a talking stage. As a social science major, I’ll employ the little knowledge of physics I have here: pairs of forces. When you don’t feel your energy is reciprocated, it’s okay to take a step back. See how things feel in a week or so. Maybe the lack of effort will seem utterly unattractive to you. Maybe you’ll have a boost of motivation to get a date on the calendar. Don’t hesitate to write again. We will all be looking forward to an update soon.
Until then, with love,
Julia
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