Dressing Up

Winter break for many of us means attending a multitude of social functions. We look forward to some, while dreading others. Whether it is one of those family get-togethers that seem to go on forever, or a little soiree to reunite old friends, different occasions call for different dress codes. A friend of mine recently made the observation that people, in general, have grown much more casual when it comes to dressing for special occasions. For so many of us, looking nice means wearing our "good jeans." Don't get me wrong, jeans are very versatile, but, this holiday season, why not try something a little different: don't be afraid to dress up.

Beautiful clothing certainly adds to a lovely party and looking nice sends the message to your host or hostess that you care about being there. This doesn't mean one should wear an Oscar-worthy evening gown to a cocktail party, but, as a rule, being a tad overdressed is far better than being underdressed. If you hate the thought of uncomfortable formalwear, remember that casually styled clothing can look quite dressy if made of a nice material. For instance, many retailers are offering trousers that fit much like jeans in materials like velvet. This is not to be confused with velour, which, as we have discussed before, is a no-no. You can also find simple camisoles made of luxurious satin with lace detailing. Before you know it, you are all dressed up in something that fits like jeans and a tank top! If cold weather is a factor, try adding a fitted blazer (I've seen them in both velvet and satin!).

If you feel your outfit isn't quite dressy enough, you can usually pull it together with the right accessories. A bejeweled choker or massive chandelier earrings add instant drama to a simple top. Remember, if your necklace and your earrings make bold statements, wearing them both together can be over the top. For a chic evening bag, a strapless clutch is a must. Pair this with a pair of dainty gloves for a truly classic look. Footwear is another way to instantly change the look of an outfit. If you are feeling a little casual in your plain trousers, a pair of extravagant heels usually does the trick.

Let me remind you yet again that slender stilettos and a gracefully pointed toe tend to look more elegant than chunkier varieties. It is very important to match the style of your shoes to what you are wearing. This may seem obvious, but I don't know how many times I've seen nice cocktail dresses worn with horrendous shoes. If you are wearing a slender sheath dress with tiny straps, don't wear clunky wedge heels! Slinky dresses are best with strappy, delicate shoes.

As far as dresses are concerned, it can sometimes be difficult to tell just how formal is too formal. Pay close attention to the cut and material. A more formal cut, such as "full-length strapless" looks more formal in satin than in stretchy knit material. I'm personally not a fan of stretchy knit material, but that seems to be quite popular these days. The point is, you can get away with more dramatic styles if the fabric is a little less dressy. I love luxurious materials, so I would suggest going for a less-formal cut in a truly beautiful material. A strapless sheath dress hemmed at the knee in a solid satin or silk is a safe bet. Of course, if you really want something unique, vintage eveningwear is always wonderful.

For men, the same rules apply. You can find lots of wearable clothing in dressier fabrics. Instead of boring khaki, try fine wool (perhaps with a pinstripe!). If you are more on the cutting edge, stores like H&M carry velvet trousers for men as well as women. Instead of a cotton sweater, find one in Merino wool or cashmere. A cashmere turtleneck is the easiest way to dress up if you are feeling lazy. Or pair a v-neck sweater with a shirt and tie. Find a sweater with a fitted cut so you avoid looking like a frumpy old man.

Everyone looks good in a suit, but that might be too much for many occasions. Instead, find a blazer that compliments your trousers, rather than matching exactly. Now, I'm not talking about your Dad's power sport coat. I'm talking about a cool vintage-looking jacket with a snug fit in a cool fabric. Places like Urban Outfitters and Planet Aid -- both in Harvard Square -- usually carry these.

Also pay close attention to accessories. The right tie can make or break a look. What type of tie you choose is a matter of personal taste, just make sure that the colors work. I prefer ties with bold, graphic stripes rather than tiny patters. Be sure that your footwear fits in with your overall look, as well. Contrary to popular belief, a pair of shoes will not necessarily be appropriate just because they are black. Your beat-up Doc Martins simply will not do. I've even seen on several terrible occasions black sneakers with nice dress pants! Don't let this happen to you.

Dressing up doesn't have to be a chore. There are all sorts of ways to look stunning while maintaining casual comfort. With the right combination of luxurious materials and flattering cuts, you'll be ready to face all those holiday engagements. So, as we enter this season of social gatherings, look forward to looking your best.